Finding My Beat Again: Why I Create Free Songs From Grief, for Healing
In the wake of immense loss, I found myself searching for meaning, comfort, and connection. Music became the bridge between heartbreak and hope—a language that helped me process grief and transform it into healing, not just for myself but for others who feel unseen or alone. The journey of founding whatsyourbeat.com began as a tribute to my wife and the story we shared.
The Beginning: When Darkness Fell
Loss does not arrive gently—it comes with a force that disrupts everything familiar. My wife was the anchor of my life, my best friend and partner. When illness took her away, the pain was nearly unbearable, overwhelming every facet of daily life. Silence became both my companion and adversary, filling our home and hearts with a sense of emptiness that words could not touch.
Sleep became elusive, and each day became an exercise in survival. The children felt her absence acutely, and I tried, sometimes failing, to provide strength and comfort for all of us. Memories became essential—photos, videos, and whispered recollections helped keep her close, but something deeper was missing.
The Language of Healing: Why Music Became My Refuge
It was in music that I found true solace. Some days, a gentle melody would ease the anxiety of sorrowful nights; other times a rough beat matched my internal turmoil. I realized that music is a language that transcends words and logic, reaching the heart in ways conversation cannot.
![Musical instrument or notebook](https://whatsyourbeat.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/piano.webp")
Gradually, song creation became both an outlet and a necessity. I wrote melodies for myself first, and then for my children, trying to capture our feelings as we navigated grief together. These simple songs were testament to the pain, hope, and resilience buried in our everyday lives.
Why I Began Sharing My Songs
As the months passed, I realized I was not alone in my experience. Grief visits everyone. What I craved most was something that could heal. What’s Your Beat was born from this desire: a service where stories and feelings could be transformed into music, a resource that would always be free.
I started giving away songs because I understood how isolating pain can be. The act of creating music for others brought unexpected gratitude, connection, and hope. Each request for a personalized song became a new opportunity to honor someone's story.
How What's Your Beat Works Today
The process is simple and heartfelt:
- Share Your Story: Anyone can submit details about a person, memory, or emotion they wish to honor.
- Choose Your Style: Pick a musical mood or provide a description, and I'll shape the song to fit.
- Song Crafted With Heart: Using advanced AI with personal oversight, every song is reviewed and honed.
- Receive and Share: Finished songs are delivered as professional MP3s privately.
- No Cost, Ever: Donations are optional and help support the ongoing mission.
The Mission: Making Music for Everyone
- No one should navigate grief or celebration alone.
- Each story is worthy of honor, no matter how ordinary or extraordinary.
- Financial barriers cannot exist when it comes to healing.
- Emotional privacy is sacred—your story is respected.
Reader's Invitation
If you are hurting, if you want to honor someone, if you need music to help you heal—share your story with me. It is yours, and it will be treated with the respect you deserve.
Share Your StoryIn every note I compose, there is hope. Music cannot erase loss, but it carries us forward. This project is my gift—a promise that you are never alone, and that every beat matters on the road back to yourself.
